Why Don't Your Pants Fit?

My thoughts lately:

Sometimes we all get too big for our britches. That's britches, not bitches. Even though we sometimes become bitches when we need new britches. Which is actually kind of the point of this post.

Don't you hate when you're around people that just think they've got it all going on and they make sure they let everyone know it? Entitlement. Bottom line. (That wasn't an intentional reference to bums there either, it just worked out). I understand some people gain a sense of entitlement throughout life due to past circumstances. Maybe they are self-made successes that came from nothing as a child and feel they deserve everything they have. I honestly get that. But, I still feel like those are actually the people who should be the most humble by how far they've come. Right?

I live daily trying to portray myself as a humble being. I may have a lot to some and nothing by other's standards. In any light, I try to live with peace and gratitude. And I try to never treat anyone with any other mindset differently than I would want to be treated. The Golden Rule really is pretty golden. But, sometimes there are those that just test your limits, ya know? You want so badly for them to realize they are not above you but you are trying to be that example of humbleness yourself and don't want to come across as knowing more than them by mentioning so. See my dilemma?

So, how do we maintain being humble and peaceful beings while teaching others to do the same? This is a question for you, not myself.

What if we did What We Wanted?

What motivates you? What makes you say, "Oh, I want to try this, or that, or that!"? What gives you energy and drive? How are you most productive?

Everyone works differently. Everyone has different skills, abilities and talents. This is what makes the world go round. However, this is also what makes the world seem to be at a dead stop sometimes. Like Atlanta when it snows. (I'm entitled to say that, I'm from the metro area).

I've realized lately what keeps me focused and motivated: doing my own thing. ha...I know....every adult over 40 is snickering at my Generation Y mentality. But for real...as long as no one is pressuring me or hounding me to get something done or do it "their way", I'm ten times more productive in the long run and will feel wayyy more confident doing it. Serious. No joke. Leave me alone and I'll pull off some seriously awesome shit. In my own time, of course. :)

So, think about it.....if the world allowed people to fully utilize their skills AND interests, how much farther would we make it? Work is all about skills and not enough about people's interests. If you use people for what they can do too much, before long you will lose them for what they could do. Does that make sense? If it doesn't...think about it a minute longer.

Life is short, we all say. Is it really? Or are we all just moving along like monotonous ants doing what someone, somewhere said was what needed to be done? Deadlines, standards...these are things that have been set by people, not life itself. Nothing in life or on this earth has carved that we must make this deadline or have this task done by this time or something won't happen. Life itself has no rules. First world countries are so concerned with bringing second and third world countries up to their standards. Why don't we learn from them instead? Life is only as complicated as we allow it to be. Take a step back and let it just be. If people have beef with that....then maybe it's time for your paths to be finished crossing.

peace my loves.

Yeah, I'm a League Bowler

Mondays are one of my favorite days. I know, I know...pretty much everyone else in the entirety of history HATES Mondays, but I look forward to them every week. Why am I so insane? Well, for starters I don't work Mondays. :) But, more importantly, it's my bowling night.

This is the third full season I've bowled in a league and I LOVE it! It's probably one of the few hobbies I can say I truly have. I'm not super competitive, but if I were, this would be it. Now, I'm no Olympic qualifier here but I have significantly improved each season and I'm becoming more and more satisfied with my performance. 

Here are a couple of pictures from last night's festivities: None of me but these are my two teammates. Enjoy the view. ;) 

This is Gayree (Gary). We've been partners for 3 seasons now! I think he was about ready to dive with this one! 

And this is my boyfriend Jack. He joined our team this season. He does some great dance moves with his release. ;) 

I've got the best team in town. I can't begin to say how much fun we have together and with everyone in the league. I highly suggest checking out your local bowling alley for leagues if you enjoy bowling. 

To Dress or Not to Dress: The Halloween Dilemma

So, it's Halloween! Happy Halloween all! :) Boo!

I hope everyone is having a spooktacularly wonderful day so far. It's beautiful weather down here in Georgia...at least for the time being. You never know if that will change at any moment!

I have a dilemma here: do I dress up for Halloween or no? I am going to a Halloween party tonight that is starting pretty much right at dark, so does this mean it's more of a celebration than a dress up party? Idk. Unfortunately, I no longer have any past costumes in stock. I know, I threw them out stupidly.

This is where I need help! I need to at least have ideas of something I can pull from my closet to make something but am at a loss of creativity in this moment. I LOVE dressing up but I've let this year slip up on me.

Who out there has some creative but simple ideas? And maybe some ideas for a guy that can be put together from the closet selection. Couples ideas are not out of question at this moment. :)

Thanks loves.

Cup 'o Tea for Ya

I love hot tea. There's no doubt about that. But I not only love tea for all the herbal remedies it provides or the yummy flavors you can try. I love teas because one every time I brew a cup of Yogi tea I get a little nugget of inspiration.

This was my morning inspiration today:

"To be calm is the highest achievement of the self."

Finding true calmness and peace in any moment or within yourself truly is a high achievement. It is so difficult today with all the distractions available to find true calmness on a daily basis. There are a a lot of people who are quiet, but that does not equate to calmness. The mind may be going a million miles a minute inside. Calmness only comes from awareness and choice. Awareness of what is distracting you and choosing to focus on what makes you calm. Time and patience lead to calmness but it is a beautiful place to be in. And I say all this to remind myself of this lesson as well.

So, if you're ever down or feeling funky, pick up a cup 'o tea! It will soothe the mind and body!

Words of a Stranger

As I was standing next to my car this afternoon pumping gas, I was interrupted by a complete stranger. And I don't think I fully appreciated the comment made in the moment.

I was simply rushing to get my gas and get to a doctor's appointment when a lady from the car next to me walks by and stops and stares. I look over at her and she makes one statement, "You are beautiful". I stare at her for a split second before responding with a simple thank you. I thought, maybe she isn't talking me, I'm the one standing here with a full face rash that makes me look like I'm permanently ready for Halloween. But then she says it again. I was perplexed. How could someone see me right now and think "that's beautiful"? She then makes another statement saying "You have eyes like the ocean". I kept saying thank you trying to decide if I thought she had some sort of mental issues going on.

With a final thank you, and relief that I was finished pumping gas, I hopped into my car and pulled off. I rushed to the doctor, most antsy to figure out what was going on with my face, and didn't give this kind stranger a second thought until I was home later.

Once I took the time to think about it, I began asking some questions: Why was I so put off by this stranger's kind words? Why am I being so vain? Why don't we all just give compliments to strangers when we feel compelled?

It was certainly a humbling experience hearing her words today. It was also encouraging once I let it be. I was more worried about people being put off by the way I looked when the only comment made was by someone complimenting me.

I think this was a lesson in humbleness and thankfulness. We should never be so consumed with our looks. And we should all begin to give compliments when they pop in our head. You never know, maybe that person is having a rough day and your kind words are exactly what they need to hear. So, before we worry about ourselves and what others think, let's realize what we think about others and share.

Be Easy, Be Happy

A beautiful Sunday morning posted up on the dock with a cup of joe and typing away. This is a wonderful way to start my Sunday, or any day for that matter. I can hear a few motor sounds in the distance, but I don't see a soul out here. Granted, I am tucked away in a cove but there is decent view of a good part of the open lake. This is peace.

I'm taking this time to be intentional. Not so much with myself with any thoughts in mind, but intentional in paying attention to my surroundings. I am being. In this moment I can hear every fish plop its head above water, every various bird cawing or singing away, every tree limb swaying in the breeze and every wave that hits the docks. This is life. Not "the" life (even though this is a pretty awesome way to live), but life. The life all around us that all too often goes unnoticed.

In this moment of being I feel happy. A friend of mine always says "Be Happy". To everyone. It's his motto. And every time I see it or hear it from him I recognize what he is saying, but I don't think I ever take the time to stop and really just tell myself, 'be happy'. It's really so simple. Just be. There's no trying. Just be. Try it!

Another saying I try to remind myself of is "be easy". I've never heard anyone say this until a few months ago but Jack [boyfriend] says it all the time. And with as much time as he spends out on this dock and lake, I understand it after simply being in this moment.  We all make life way too complicated way too often. Most things in life are a result of decision and the majority of the time we are choosing to react or respond in a certain way. No report or paper is innately stressful, no appointment or meeting is so crucial we will die if something goes wrong. We put the weight of these feelings into them. Life can exist without the ridiculousness of deadlines and making impressions. Just sayin. :) If only we could convince bosses and coworkers of this. ha.

I urge everyone out there to try out these wonderful philosophies. ;) I promise you life will be much more enjoyable.

Be happy, be easy, be you.

Bye Loves.